I read an interesting article today entitled ‘Stop Being a Butthole Wife’. It was written by a woman who realised after she was widowed how nagging had damaged her relationship with her husband. You can read the original article here: http://herviewfromhome.com/stop-being-a-butthole-wife/

Of course, being a butthole cuts both ways. You can be a butthole husband as much as a butthole wife. How? By focussing your attention on the small faults that upset you, rather than the overall awesomeness that made you choose that partner in the first place.

So what Tarot cards would symbolise a ‘butthole partner’?

Four of Cups: Ingratitude

Focusing on what’s missing in your relationship rather than all the good things it brings

Five of Swords: Being mean

The biting comments that hurt the feelings of others.

In Debbie Wilkins Baisden’s case this has led to…

Nine of Swords: Regret

And could also lead to the most hurtful harmful feeling of all…

Judgement Reversed: Deep shame

It’s so easy to fall into the habit of complaint rather than compliment. I’ve certainly been guilty of this.

What cards would you assign to being a butthole partner?