Strength And The Power Of No


I used to find it hard to say the word ‘No’ to people. As in, ‘No. It’s not okay for you to keep talking on the phone when you should be serving me.’ As in, ‘No. I’m not going to clean your dishes/clothes/car for you.’ As in, ‘No. I don’t want to come out tonight. I’d rather stay home and read a book.’ (That just sounds weird before you’re 40 years old. Even for an introvert.) But since I reached my forties I’ve been liberated. Whoo-hoo! The ‘no’ word just gets easier and easier. The important thing now is to remember to say it kindly.

Finding the courage to ask for what you want  – rather than doing what is expected of you – is very much the domain of the Strength card. Continue reading


Strength: Are You A Carrot, Egg Or Coffee Bean?

A young woman went to her grandmother and spoke about her life and how things were so hard for her. She didn’t know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

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Strength: The Uprising Of Women In The Arab World

Arab womenAn Arab woman has started a Facebook page in which she encourages others to post a photo of themselves along with a statement that begins, ‘I am with the uprising of women in the Arab world because…’ The aim is to create an online space where women – often isolated in their own communities – can exchange personal stories and debate issues. Thousands have flocked to post messages. Both men and women. Here are a few…

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