The Boston Bombers And The Frankston Rapist: The Tarot Of Dealing With Imported Cultural Values

So they’ve caught the last remaining Boston Marathon Bomber and everyone can breathe a sigh of relief. At least the immediate danger is over. Although the pain is not. Everything about this situation makes me sad. The loved ones lost. The victims who must learn to live without an arm or leg or maybe both. The families hurting. The futileness of the whole thing. And two young men who believed that harming others in the most horrific way was the best thing they could do with their lives. How did they come to such a conclusion? Was it because they were born in a country where terrorism is seen as a valid means of expressing your dissatisfaction? And more importantly, how can we stop this from happening again?

Australia like America has a worrying track record when it comes to ensuring newcomers embrace the values of our society. Men from certain countries manage to find a way to have more than one wife, 14-year-old girls are sent back to their parent’s country-of-birth to get married, female babies are circumcised, even though these things are against Australian law. And then there is this. Alongside the news about the capture of the Boston Bomber in the Australian media this morning was a distressing story about a young Afghan refugee who confused rape with consensual sex.

Esmatullah Sharifi was jailed a few years ago for raping a 25-year-old woman on Christmas Eve. He subsequently faced the courts again on charges of raping an 18-year-old five days before the other rape took place. The courts heard that Sharifi regularly drove around outside nightclubs in Frankston, on the outskirts of Melbourne, on the lookout for drunk, vulnerable, young women. As a result of these two cases Sharifi was placed on the sexual offenders registry and sentenced to 14 years in prison. Incredibly, unbelievably, he has won the right to appeal his sentence on the basis that as a refugee he did not understand what ‘consent’ means in Australia. Even though in the second case it was made clear that the girl screamed and called for help at which point he put one hand over her mouth and another around her neck to restrict her breathing i.e. He had to use force for the sexual act to be performed. As one commentator has pointed out, the idea that rape might somehow be excused in Australia because of cultural differences in horrifying.

It strikes me that there are disturbing parallels between the Boston Bombers and the Frankston rapist. In both cases the imported cultural values of young men has led to acts that we would consider evil. So maybe we need to look at the ways we manage the assimilation of immigrants. Of course the onus should be on the individuals involved to take responsibility for their actions. Few immigrants commit such horrifying deeds and there are plenty of homegrown rapists and murderers. But surely it’s also in our interest as a society to look for better ways to impart our values to newcomers.

This is how I would describe the Tarot of this situation:

The Emperor: Young men

The Devil: Evil

Justice: Weighing our options as a society

Two Of Pentacles: Dealing with different values

We need to consider carefully how we deal with young men who are importing what we would consider evil values into our society. We need to deal with those values before they erupt into rape and murder. Ignorance should never be admitted as a valid excuse before the law.

Any suggestions as to how?

The Tarot Of Being A Writer

I’ve been writing novels in my leisure time for years. Haven’t finished any yet but here are some things I’ve learned along the way…

It takes two things to be a writer:

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The Emperor Reversed: I Don’t Want To!

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There are times when being an adult seems vastly overrated. Whilst my daughters swan around with their friends and lie prostrate in bed playing video games for hours on end I’m the bunny who has to make sure all the washing, shopping, cooking, gardening etc gets done. Meanwhile they think that if they hang one load of washing a day they’ve been some kind of hero and roll their eyes at further requests for assistance. You know what. I don’t wanna do all that boring stuff either. But someone has to.

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The Hierophant: Bill Gates Socks It To ‘Em

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Bill Gates gave a speech at a high school recently in which he talked about how feel-good politically correct teachings had created a generation of kids with no concept of reality which sets them up for failure in the real world. He outlined eleven rules students would not learn in school but should.

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The Emperor Reversed: Post Patriarchal Depression

Post patriarchal depression. I don’t know if it’s a real syndrome. I just liked the phrase so much I wanted to include it in my blog post tonight.

According to an article in the New York Times (so it must be true) post-patriarchal depression is the reason white guys sometimes go on mass shooting sprees. What the? Sounds like an excuse for unexcusable behaviour to me. But I take the point. You can understand that it’s hard for young men to know how to be a man these days when many of their own father’s behaviours are no longer considered acceptable. The New York Times correspondent suggested that there is an entire generation of young men who hate themselves. Lost boys who don’t know their place in the world.

Which makes me think of this card…

The Emperor R

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A Tarot Threesome: The Empress, The Emperor and The Hierophant

I like to contemplate Tarot cards in groups as well as on their own. The meaning of a card can become clearer when you see what lies either side of it in the deck. Especially with the Life Lesson (Major Arcana) cards which as I have said refer to the significant experiences we have as human beings. Let’s look at an example shall we?

Here we have: The Empress. The Emperor. The Hierophant.

Which on one level represent: Your mum. Your dad. Your teachers.

On another: Play. Discipline. Forming ideas.

These life experiences roughly initiate at: Age 0-2. Age 2-5. Age 5+.

In other words these cards represent you as: A baby. A preschooler. In primary school (as we call the first formal level of learning in Australia).

By lining up The Empress, The Emperor and The Hierophant side by side you can see that they represent the natural sequence of events in early childhood development. This trick helps me understand the cards better. Does it help you?

P.S. I suspect my posts are getting shorter as the school term drags on. That’s cause teaching sucks the life force out of me. There ain’t much left in the tank at the end of the day after I’ve completed all my must-dos (which tonight included a load of washing, dishes, two car trips for the wee ones not to mention shopping and dinner.) But I hope you still find what I have to say interesting and helpful (and that I’m still making sense). That’s my aim. And if there’s anything in particular you’d like me to chat about wrt Tarot cards please let me know. Cheers!

The Tarot Of Fifty Shades Of Grey

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Even though I’ve been banging on about how Tarot cards come in 50 shades I’ve only just started reading this trilogy. Being the Four of Pentacles cheapskate that I am (remember, we discussed this) I get the books I want to read from the library and as you can imagine there was a veeeeery long wait list for this one. Anyway, consider this the first installment of my Tarot book review because I’m sure I’ll have more to say on the subject when I finish. But even after 174 pages there are some aspects of this story that really pop out at me (not to mention that are eye-popping in general.)

For starters, Christian Grey. While some may see him as… Continue reading

The Tarot Of Big Brother

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The Big Brother reality television show is drawing to a close this week in Australia. If you’ve never heard of it (?) the premise is that a group of people live together in a house continuously watched by TV cameras. Their only contact with the outside world is a disembodied voice called Big Brother who tells them what to do in order to stay in the house and get food. Every week the contestants nominate a few housemates for eviction and the public votes which one should be thrown out. The last man or woman standing wins a large cash prize. There was an absolutely brilliant take-off of the Big Brother show involving zombies a couple of years back called ‘Dead Set’. I highly recommend it if you like a good scare and a bit of a laugh.

I’m a huge sucker for the Big Brother phenomenon which is one of those TV shows you tend to either love or loathe. What I enjoy watching are the small incremental ways the housemates change (or your impression of them changes) as the show unfolds.

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The Emperor: Hey Dad!

The Emperor

We had a look at The Empress recently so it seems only fair to check out her counterpart, The Emperor. He’s one of the Life Lessons (Major Arcana) cards so he carries a bit of weight in a reading but as he’s found early on in Life Lesson Tarot he’s not too complicated. What does he represent?

He’s your dad.

He’s you as a dad.

He’s a hard worker, or, the need to work hard.

He’s the one meeting out discipline or the need to be disciplined.

He’s successful. Gets things done. (Cause he works hard and is disciplined. The knee bones connected to the thigh bone.)

He’s where you experience limitations.

He’s good at saying no. (Whereas The Empress is the yay-sayer.) Note: He’s not a hard arse. That’s more the King of Swords. The Emperor has expectations but he’s not cut-throat or mean about it. Just firm.

He’s rules and regulations.

He’s every authority figure. Authority in general. Policemen in particular.

He’s the rock you can lean on. But also the immoveable object in your path.

He’s your inner critic. (Whereas The Empress is more like your inner encourager.) That voice in your head that reminds you what a loser you are.

He’s the screws turned tight. The control freak. Obsessive compulsive behaviour. When I was a teenager I had to have 16 teaspoons in my Milo (an Australian chocolate drink). Had to. 16 exactly. That sort of thing.

He’s in charge. The patriarch. Your boss. The dominator in S & M situations.

He rules. Sometimes with a fair hand. Sometimes with an iron fist.

He makes you feel safe and secure. Will defend his loved ones to the death.

He loves routine.

He’s self-controlled. You can’t rattle him no matter how much you try.

And he makes no apologies for all of the above.

You need to exert a little Emperor energy if you want to achieve your goals. Forcing myself to write on this blog every day no matter how #$&% I feel is tres` Emperor. (Actually #$&% represents tiredness more than anything else. Not a very exciting emotion huh? But day-to-day life exhaustion is my mortal enemy when it comes to writing. You can’t write if you can’t think and you can’t think if you’re tired. I’ve been off work for the last two months caring for an ill family member and go back to my day job tomorrow. So it’ll be interesting to see if the quality of my posts are affected. I’ll be drawing on all The Emperor reserves I have to write them I can tell you. Teaching children is like pouring your energy down a black hole every single day. Lucky I enjoy it.)

How you feel about The Emperor card will tell you a lot about how good you are at setting boundaries in your life and/or about your relationship with your father. So how do you feel about The Emperor? Please share.

Ways To Be Successful According To The Good Book Tarot (Part 2)

As I said yesterday, you can achieve success in various ways according to the good book Tarot. Here are the ones that stand out for me from the Life Lessons part of the deck.

The Emperor

The Emperor: Success achieved through hard work and discipline. For some reason potty training comes to mind. After a lot of practice and concentration every kid eventually manages to swap nappies (or diapers as they’re called O.S.) for undies (as we call pants here in Australia).

The Wheel Of Fortune

Wheel of Fortune: Success as part of the natural ups and downs of life. Sometimes things go your way for no particular reason. More of it I say.

The Sun

The Sun: Living the life of your dreams e.g. You love being a mother more than anything else and you get to be a stay-at-home mum.

The World

The World: The ultimate success. Where you’re at peace with your life in every way. Not only are you living the life of your dreams but in doing so you’re contributing to the broader community.

Because these are Life Lesson cards we all get to experience them at some stage in our lives (hopefully.) And let’s not forget the Court cards when it comes to success. Getting a king or queen can signify mastery of a particular area of your life.

So there you have it. Any other suggestions?