Temperance: Embracing Middle Age

Temperance

Temperance. To temper. Modify. Finely adjust. A process that occurs naturally as we age. Behaviour and expectations change to suit diminishing physical capabilities and altered desires.

Ah, middle age.

When a hot summer’s day doesn’t mean a trip to the beach but that you can get all the washing done.

When you want your kids to go out on a Saturday night (rather than go out yourself) so you can have the couch and TV remote all to yourself.

When you give up team sports to protect your back and knees so you can muck around with your kids because that’s more important than showing off on the football field.

Young people (i.e. my own children) think us middle agers have a sad life but in my humble opinion going out and getting wasted, random sex with strangers, sleeping in all day and partying all night, doesn’t come within cooee of the satisfaction you get from creating a life for your family. Or maybe it’s just that in middle age what you enjoy is different to what you enjoy when you’re young.

I’m all for embracing the changes that happen as I age. What about you?

Seven Of Swords: The Christmas Sneak And The Telephone Scammer

7 Swords

As I’ve been telling you ad infinitum every Tarot card comes in many shades. Both positive and negative. And the Seven Of Swords is no exception.

You can use your wiles to do something nice…

Like be the Christmas sneak. It’s reached that time of year when I’m tip-toeing around buying presents for my children behind their backs and hiding them around the house.  Like on the television show Survivor my mission is to outwit outplay outlast my children so they are surprised come Christmas Eve. It’s this great game I get to play every December. I looooove this part of Christmas. And if I shop early enough I don’t feel under pressure so it’s a hootenanny on every level. I also get to play my other favourite game afterwards: Hanging out at shopping centers just before Christmas watching everyone who is not as organised as moi stress out (hmmm, sounds kinda mean when I put it like that. But there you go, lol!)

Or you can use your wiles to pull the wool over someone’s eyes…

Like run a phone scam. There are stories about this on a regular basis in my local rag which I find quite entertaining. But it wouldn’t be fun to be duped by one. I feel especially for the elderly who are more easily tricked by these blighters. Here’s an example from today’s Herald Sun in Melbourne which quite tickled my fancy (it has a funny ending):

‘Myra took a call from a scammer telling her that the Windows program on her computer wasn’t working and that she’d need to upgrade it. ‘I don’t have a computer,’ she said. ‘Do you have a fridge?’ asked the scammer. ‘Yes,’ she replied. ‘A television?’ ‘Yes.’ ‘A microwave?’ ‘Yes.’ ‘Well you should have a computer,’ said the scammer who then hung up.’

Ha ha ha ha ha. Talk about cheek! I like to be cheeky with THEM. My favourite trick is to leave the phone on and walk away to waste the b———s time and money.

Have you been scammed by a scammer? Or had one attempt to scam you? Do you have any tricks for turning the tables on them?

Or to focus on something more pleasant: Do you like being the Christmas Sneak as much as I do? It’s kinda like being the opposite of the Christmas Grinch, eh?

Ace Of Cups: Treat Yourself! Love Yourself!

Ace Cups

The Ace Of Cups: A gift of love.

I treated myself today to a two hour massage after work. Not something I do very often. In fact it had been so long since I last visited my favourite beauty shop my records were no longer on their computer, lol. Massages are very much the terrain of The Empress card. But because I brought it as a gift to myself I consider this afternoon to have been more an Ace Of Cups experience. And I enjoyed every minute of it.

There seems to be some confusion in Tarot circles as to whether an Ace card signals the beginnings or an intense experience of something emotionally enriching. A topic I would like to tackle another day. For now the point I’m trying to make is that you can receive the love this card intimates from YOURSELF. Nothing wrong with that. In fact, as we all know, you have to love yourself before you can really open up to receiving love from anyone else. And sometimes that is the hardest love to find of all. Took me awhile. Into my forties.

Anyone else a slow learner when it comes to luuurve?

Animal Mysteries Of The High Priestess

High Priestess

Okay so I’m no animal lover. But before you switch over to someone else’s blog in protest at this disturbing information please know, I don’t hate them either. We just don’t share any special kind of connection. I’m more in synch with children than pets. This might have something to do with the fact I was raised by a parent terrified of getting animal hair on the furniture. Hence no pets that couldn’t be contained within a wire perimeter (and they’re not so much fun, are they?) But that doesn’t mean I’m unfamiliar with the ways of the animal kingdom.

For example. Today a friend of mine who is a massive animal lover shared this quote on her Facebook page: ‘If your dog doesn’t love someone maybe you shouldn’t either.’ And even though I’m no dog lady it makes sense to me. Dogs and cats just seem to know stuff. Like when thunderstorms or fires are coming. Like when their master or mistress is about to come home (my neighbour’s dog always barks at this hour.)

In my newspaper today the resident astrologer, Jonathan Cainer, shared a letter he’d received from a reader:

‘My mother died in a nursing home. Before she passed the hospice informed me she probably wouldn’t last many more days, and to start planning her funeral. That night I was in bed when my cat jumped on my chest and took its two front paws to cradle my face and gaze into my eyes. Seconds later the nursing home rang to say my mother had just passed away sooner than expected. To this day I’m convinced that somehow my mother was able to say she loved me and to say goodbye through the cat.’

Jonathan has shared many such stories this week. About how pets have woken their owners from sleep just before the alarms went off or when the owner had been wanting to get up. About how a squirrel would come and feed out of a reader’s hand every day precisely at the hour she nominated.

I had a budgie when I was growing up (feathers conveniently molt inside a cage.) Imaginatively named: ‘Budgie’. One night I dreamt he died and when I came down in the morning he had indeed passed away. Yet he hadn’t even looked sick the evening before.

When we don’t know how. When we don’t know why. When we experience something that is outside the realm of human understanding we are in the realm of the High Priestess card.

Have you had an experience like this with a pet? Please share.

The Eight Cards: A Deepening Of The Tarot Journey

The Eight cards in Tarot signal a shift in the journey through each suit. They ask that you dig deeper inside yourself than you ever have before. They ask you to be brave. To face challenging situations full-on. Take a look…

8 Wands

Eight of Wands: Being rewarded for the effort you’ve put in and now having to step up to the plate in some new aspect of your career/life e.g. A bank finally gives you that mortgage you were after and now you’re going to commit yourself to actually buying a house. Yikes!

8 Cups

Eight of Cups: Leaving behind a relationship/career/home to search for something better. It’s never easy to let go of something, no matter how unsatisfying it may be, when you have nothing in particular to replace it with.

8 Swords

Eight of Swords: Fighting your own negative self-beliefs. The hardest critic to ignore is the one who lives inside your own head.

8 Pentacles

Eight of Pentacles: Working harder than you’ve ever worked before. Because you’re committed to some goal you want to achieve and nothing is more important than that. As my new favourite saying goes: You don’t get what you wish for. You get what you work for!

Even in Life Lesson Tarot the number eight signifies a deepening of the Tarot journey. It’s the step from childhood into adulthood.

Strength

Strength: Standing up for yourself.

So if you get a number eight card be brave. It won’t be easy. But know that Tarot wouldn’t give you this card if it didn’t think you were up to the challenge. And the reward is a significant one. Inner strength. Empowerment. Feeling like a proper grown-up in other words. In charge of your life. A fully fledged adult!

Can You Change Your Tarot Future?

I do a special Tarot card spread on my birthday each year. It gives me three Tarot cards to represent each month of the following year and three to represent my year as a whole. I don’t particularly like knowing my future (because it can look depressing) but I usually can’t resist having a peek and I find it a great way to deepen my understanding of the cards.

The three cards I got for this month are as follows:

2 SwordsTwo Of Swords: The ‘leave me the hell alone’ card.

Check.

I often get over-stimulated and overwhelmed at this crazy time of year and feel the need to stay at home for long spells of what I call ‘dark cupboard time’.

Empress

The Empress. A lady of leisure and pleasure.

Double check.

As you know I spent a ridiculous amount of money updating my DVD collection on the weekend without bothering to see if I could actually afford it (doh!) I’ve booked a full body massage for later this week. Something I always want but rarely do. Not to mention I’m spending a great deal of my time at the moment lolling around on my bed reading novels. And I thought I wasn’t in touch with my inner Empress, ha!

But here’s where we come a cropper…

8 Swords

Eight of Swords: Over-thinking something. Feeling trapped, powerless, under pressure to hold your tongue, anxious about your next step. A victim. Unable to see a way forward.

Um, no.

Even though it’s now confirmed that I have to move into a new position at my workplace next year I don’t feel scared about that. I would have last year. Maybe even six months ago. But now I feel more like this…

The Fool

The Fool: Open to the possibility it could be a good move for me.

So what I’m wondering is: Can you change your Tarot future? (Or is the Eight of Swords going to rear it’s ugly head in a different way over the next couple of weeks?) I guess I believe that you can. That we have free will and the potential to change our destinies no matter what the cards say. And I think the further Tarot tries to predict into the future the less reliable it gets.

But what do you think? Especially those of you with experience of the cards. Please share.

 

Four Of Swords: Sunday – The Day Of Rest (Thank God!)

If ever a Tarot card was made for describing a day of the week it is this one.

4 Swords

Four of Swords: Time out. Especially from thinking. Talk about summing up Sundays in a nutshell. It’s the one day of the week you feel you have permission to cut yourself some slack and kick back a little bit. Hang out with your loved ones. Forget about the paperwork. Have a rest.

We all spend way too much time doing this…

8 Swords

Eight of Swords: Over-thinking. There’s just too much information to process these days. At work. At home. We’re all hooked into the mainframe wherever we are downloading bytes for our brains to snack on. Shouted at by advertising billboards wherever we go. It’s hard to get your head straight with all that noise. So its great to have a day when you can give yourself permission to not think at all. Clear your mind.

On that note, God forbid I add to the white noise pollution. Write a post just for the sake of it. Because all the ‘experts’ out there say you have to post consistently to get peeps to follow your blog. Because PR rules dictate that is how you become successful. I can feel myself on the verge sometimes. Especially when I’m tired. But usually the most amazing thing happens. Once I force myself to start thinking Tarot again all these ideas pop into my head. But still, I’m making you a pledge here and now dear reader. If ever I feel like I really don’t have something to say I won’t post that day. I know you can tell the difference. Smell when something’s not authentic. And even though I’m a Gemini I don’t want to write just for the sake of it. I want it to be meaningful (that’s my Mars-Pluto conjunction in Virgo.)

And if you think I’m talking out of my arse about something please call me on it. It’s only by sharing our knowledge that we can get the full picture about Tarot (or anything for that matter) 🙂

The Tarot Of O.C.D.

O.M.G. I’ve been acting totally O.C.D. today. Wonder if there’s something going on in the stars? As I’ve explained ad infinitum I’m usually a massive cheapskate/good budgeter but in the last 24 hours I’ve spent god knows how much updating my DVD collection ($800? Ouch!) I just couldn’t stop myself. What I couldn’t find in the shops I ordered online.

The thing is it was long overdue. We’re still watching most of our favourite movies in video format in my house because that’s how I brought them years ago and the few DVDs we have only work when they want to in the old DVD player. (Did I mention I brought a new DVD/Blu Ray player as well?) To prepare for the renovation I’m planning sometime in the next year or two I’ve been wanting to chuck out all those old videos and replace them with DVDs. I’m quite emotionally attached to our movie collection as I’ve spent a lot of quality time cuddling my girls on the couch watching chick let flicks as they’ve grown. They represent precious memories for me. Maybe that’s why I went so over the top.

So it got me thinking about the Tarot of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I reckon it would be represented by this card:

8 Pentacles

The Eight of Pentacles. The picture shows a man repeating an action over and over again. Maybe in the reverse position? Or in conjunction with The Devil (feeling trapped)? Or both?  I’ve also heard people mention The Hierophant (he represents ritual) and The Magician (don’t get the connection myself) as being indicative of O.C.D. Anyone got any other suggestions?

The Tarot Of Bingling Your Car

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Yep. I had a bingle in my car this evening. First one ever in over 20 years of driving. Knock on wood. Guess I’m getting old. My sense of space isn’t what it used to be (kinda like my memory for spelling, lol.) It wasn’t a major accident. I just scrapped the side of my neighbour as I reversed out of a car space. But it got me thinking about the Tarot of bingling your car. You know, once I’d recovered from the shock and annoyance.

These two cards pretty much sum it up: Continue reading

The World Card And The Illusion Of Having ‘Made It’

The WorldI just read an article in the arts section of last weekend’s newspaper about a guy called Brian Eno, an English musician, composer, record producer, singer and visual artist, who is apparently pretty famous. He played the keyboard in Brian Ferry’s band Roxy Music which was popular a few decades back, has been a pioneer composer of ambient music and has produced albums for David Bowie, Devo, Talking Heads, U2 and Coldplay just to mention a few. By any standard this man is a success.

You’d think after all these achievements he’d be happy to rest on his laurels a little bit. Sit back and savour his success. But nothing could be further from the truth. Continue reading